The Relationship between Parents and their Children

It should be emphasised that the parent’s attitude towards their children should be one of consideration and kindness. Some parents think that they should be strict with their children and their presence should scare them. If they keep scolding their children and dominating them they may develop a fear for their parents. They may not be close to their parents. An intimacy may not develop between the children and the parents.

Parents should exercise control over their children but they should not be a terror to them. Even teachers should not be a terror to their students. Parents should gently persuade their children to study, to be disciplined. If they go on pestering the children, the children may begin to dislike them. They are not very mature and so they have to be handled with tact. Love and kindness should be the watchwords of the parents when dealing with their children.

If children are found disobedient and indiscipline they should be corrected only gradually. If parents are very strict with them, scolding them, beating them, they may try to escape from the home atmosphere. Children’s psychology is very difficult to understand. They may be suddenly moody, suddenly jovial. Only tactful dealing with the children will reform and discipline them.

It is a fact that there is bad relationship between some parents and their children because of the mishandling of the children by the parents.

It is wise for the parents to be loving and kind towards their children and at the same time tell them strictly what they should not do. Love and kindness towards their children are the natural instincts of parents. But they should not spoil their children by showing them excessive love.

The relationship between the parents and their children is unique. Though the parents may seem to be harsh with their children just because they want their children to grow disciplined there is a strong bond of love between them. The children are entirely dependent on their parents till they begin to earn.

Even after a boy or girl gets married the relationship between the parents and their children continue as cordially as ever. But in the US and in some other countries, a youngster, even while studying, works part-time, earns and wants to be independent. After a boy or a girl gets married the parents and their married children or daughter may visit one another periodically. The relationship between the parents and their children in India is very much stronger than in some western countries and this is a laudable feature.